Friday, September 19, 2008
Saturate Your Kids in the Lord & Be Choosy When Picking Your Village
Friday, December 21, 2007
Christmas in a New Light
I looked in the rear view mirror at my three miracles in the back seats and began to cry. How must Mary and Joseph have felt. Did they know the cross was coming for their little boy? As they looked at our Savior, were they compelled to run with him, away from all the hurt and pain of the world or did God's angel who said, "Do not be afraid." give them enough peace to know they would be fine. In my flesh, feel that they must have been so scared, especially as a look at my own babies through their eyes. As parents, we want to shelter our kids from all hurt and pain; it's our natural instinct. How hard it must have been for Mary as she realized that her son would bear not only his own pain, but the pain of the world on his shoulders. Truly, Mary and Joseph were special parents because if Jesus was born today, to me...a lowly sinner, would I be worthy and capable raising him? No way. As I continued driving, I began to thank God that he chose Mary and Joseph and not ME! I began to look at my little boy, who just turned three, and thank God that my son is just my son, not HIS son-not Jesus. Selfish? MUCH. And immediately God humbled me. In almost an almost audible tone, I heard God say, "Mandye, your son is still MY son. I entrusted him to you, just like I entrusted Jesus to Joseph and Mary ." WOW. Here I am thinking I'm so different from them, and God tells me I am no different from them at all. God entrusts us as parents with his children, and we are to raise them in His way. So when you look at the manger scene and see Joseph and Mary gazing at Baby Jesus, picture you and your husband gazing at your child-God's child. Now doesn't that put Christmas in a whole new light? No, our children are most definitely not Jesus, but they are God's children. Thank God for his children and for him allowing us to keep them for a little while. God Bless you and yours this Christmas!
Lord, Help us to realize that our children are not our own. They are blessings, loans, from You that you trust in our safekeeping. Thank you for the sending my children to me, because the joy that I feel as a parent is the sweetest joy in the world! I pray for parents and kids everywhere, across the world, that they will come to know You and realize Your love for them this Christmas through the celebration of Your Son's Birthday. Thank you, Jesus, for coming to live among us and for living among us still, today, in spirit. In Your Name, Amen.
Thursday, September 6, 2007
I Will Praise You in This Storm
For You are who You are no matter where I am
And every tear I've cried, You hold in your hand.
I will praise You in this storm.
You never left my side and though my heart is torn
For You are who You are no matter where I am
And every tear I've cried, You hold in your hand.
I will praise You in this storm.
Friday, June 8, 2007
The Deep End
Proverbs 2:1-5 (New International Version)
You know, sometimes you need a truly, profound word from God to keep you from drowning. The above verse kept me afloat today. It's been a rough few weeks around our household. All my children have been sick and this has actually been their first well week in a while. During their sickness, our house in Gulfport went under contract, which was a diamond in the rough for us. What a blessing! But I barely got to enjoy that blessing because Aiden almost had to be hospitalized that same day for some horrible respiratory illness that we're not, NOT calling ashma, but don't tell our insurance agent that. My dad had ashma as a child, so it seems Aiden inheritted more from his Papaw James than just a love of singing. My poor babies. It's been quite a time. And just when I think I have them well, I start getting sick. Today I'm at work, running a low grade temperature and feeling horribly stuffy. And to top it all off...We're singing in church on Sunday for the first time ever at Crossgates! It never fails! I always get sick when I'm supposed to sing. I can't count the number of times I've had to go to the doc for a shot a few days before a performance because I couldn't even talk without coughing or sneezing. It's just the way I am. I should have expected it. So this morning when I woke up I said to God, "I need You to give me a word today, a word that is encouraging because I am just not feeling the love today." It was almost like I was daring God to give me a word. Well, don't dare God. He'll get you even when you're in deep. Here I am, floundering in the deep end of my self-made pity pool of depression and he smacks me in the face with a rope and a word of encouragement to help me pull myself out. It was a great relief! It was so great to find scripture telling me to hang in there. God said, "It'll be ok!"
And you know something, it hit me that God isn't the only one charged with offering relief. As Christians, we should always be on the lookout for others who need encouragement and relief and we should always be willing to provide that. More importantly, as Christian parents, sometimes our kids need a rope from us, too. Even at 2 years old, I can tell that Aiden needs encouargement from me to help him understand this world around him. Things make him sad sometimes, and he looks to ME to tell him that it's going to be ok. What a charge we have as parents. We are the comforters for our children so that they will have an earthly example of the comfort and love that our Heavenly Father gives us. WOW. Now if that don't pull you up out of the deep end, I don't know what will!
Lord, thank you for being an on time God. You are always there when I need you to pick me up, and today you showed me exactly what I needed to see. I pray that I will be able to give that same comfort to my own children. Give me discernment and strength so that I can see your will in my life, as a Mom and a Wife. Lord, I pray that you will watch over the mothers who might read this today and help them to be a Godly example to their little ones, and that you will show them a word from you, Lord, when they are in need. I love you , Father! Amen.
Tuesday, March 6, 2007
Moving on Up
Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
Isaiah 40:28-31
After a week like I had, a week with three sick kids AGAIN, one with high fever for four days, a week with very little sleep and many tears, a week with very little patience at times...I needed to be reminded that I will soar on wings like eagles! I'm moving on up, Praise God! He is so good to us. I hope this verse offers you the strength and encouragement that it did me.
Father God, please help us all to remember when we are weary that if we will just place our hope in you, we will receive strength. Be with us all, Lord, in these weary end-of-winter, sickly days and keep our families well. I love you, Sweet Father. In Your Name I pray, Amen.
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
Through the Eyes of a Child
Two months ago I found out that Aiden's favorite children's group, The Wiggles, was coming to Starkville, MS. I quickly rounded up all the kids and adults I could find that shared our love of the Wiggles and purchased tickets online. I was SO excited for Aiden because I got good seats on the floor. I was a cool mom, probably the coolest in the world, because he would probably be able to meet the Wiggles from where we were sitting!!! We were THAT close! YAY! Well, cut to this past Sunday when we arrived at the Humphries Auditorium in Starkville for the concert and I found out that our tickets were not on the floor. I was devestated for Aiden. I wanted him to meet the Wiggles up close and in person. I wanted him to get down and run around with the dancers and do all the Wiggley dances that we've seen him dance for the past year. I wanted him to enjoy this once in a lifetime experience! I was so MAD. And no, not silly mad, I was mad mad. There was no joy in it. I was comforted by my sweet husband and sister, who said that Aiden would be fine where we were and that he would still see really well, if not better, from our seats. I didn't care. I was mad. I wanted the floor seats. I thought that's what I had and that's what I wanted. I was borderline FURIOUS.
Now Aiden, sweet angel that he is, picked this exact moment to wake up from napping in his Daddy's lap and realize that he was in an auditorium surounded by Wiggles.
"Wiggles" he said in a hushed whisper, as his huge eyes lit up with wonder. He was truly amazed.
At that moment I realized how selfish I was being. All I cared about was being a 'cool mom' and having the best seats. But when I looked into my little boy's eyes and saw the wonder there, I didn't care who had the floor seats. He looked at me and smiled and his eyes affirmed to me that I was a cool mom, the coolest in the world. When the Wiggles came out on stage, I was filled with emotion. It was as if I was seeing it all through Aiden's eyes. I cried. Yes, I cried at the Wiggles concert (those who truly know me are probably not all that surprised). We had a blast in our 'non-floor' seats and the kids LOVED it. Heck, I loved it. It was great! And I was humbled to realize that my selfishness could have ruined Aiden's time. I know that I've seen mothers ruin their children's good times because of our grown up selfishness. I will try and see things through his eyes from now on. You should try it, too.
Father God, help us come to You as little children, Lord. Help us see things as they see it, so that we will see what truly matters to You. Forgive us for our selfishness, Father, and let us be humble and see our mistakes when we slip. I love you, Lord. In Your Name I Pray, Amen.
Friday, February 23, 2007
Show the Love
What can I add to that? Thank God that he is risen, indeed. As we head into this Easter season, I encourage you to meditate on the love of Christ, the love that he ultimately showed us on the cross and through his resurrection.
Thank You, Jesus, for the love that you have shown us and that you continue to show us. Please show us ways, as parents, to show Your love to our children during this Easter season so that we might be an example of you. I love You, Father God. In Jesus Name I pray, Amen.
Thursday, February 8, 2007
The Devil Wears Knee Highs
- Get to house (4:45)
- See our family dog running like mad from edge of neighbor's yard as I pull in driveway.
- See neighbor dog CHARGE from his yard into mine toward my dog
- Stop car and yell out window for my dog to run like mad to the house
- In the mean time, sister's little mini dog charges big neighbor dog
- Big neighbor dog proceeds to toss mini dog on the ground, all the while I am flailing around and blowing the horn, as I have somehow forgotten how to get out of the blessed car.
- Figure out how to open door handle and jump out, yelling at neighbor dog to GO HOME and yelling at my dogs to GO INSIDE
- Traumatized 2 year old watches entire incident from car seat through rolled down window, screaming and crying because he thinks mini dog is hurt and thinks mommy is nuts
- Round all dogs into the house and shut door to keep them from doing anything else stupid
- Run back to car, which is still parked halfway down the driveway, and get back in to sooth screaming children.
- Park car in driveway and remove traumatized 2 year old and take him inside to see that mini dog is ok.
- 2 year old smacks our dog on the head. He thinks it's his fault. Tell 2 year old that our dog is sweet and not to hit him. 2 year old bursts out in tears, clearly still traumatized.
- Remember that I have 2 other children in the car and go get them out
- Change all diapers (mine included), because if they weren't dirty before we got home, they are now
- Put 2 year old and healthy snack in front of Diego cartoon to calm him down and bring him back to a normal environment.
By now, it's almost 5:45. Choir is at 7. We would need to leave at 6:30. I have to hustle.
- Get clothes for all children because they are filthy from Daycare.
- Saved when mom agrees to keep 2 year old because he was so traumatized earlier.
- Take turns holding screaming twins because they want mommy.
- Strip clothes off twins while both scream uncontrollably.
- Give one twin to Neener to rock while the other one decided to play on the floor.
- Neener's twin falls asleep so game time decision is made for me to simply take one twin to church...the needy twin. The one who WILL cry when I leave her. Bless.
By now it's 6:15. AH!
- Get needy twin dressed, pack small bag, fix bottle because nursery messed it up last time they kept them, and attempt to get her in car.
- In the mean time, 2 year old learns new word. "DELICIOUS!" Literally too cute for words. See video for proof of at least a 5 minute setback.
- Get momentarily sidetracked by the fact that I haven't had dinner.
- Get to church, meet my Daddy, and take needy twin to nursery. Give instructions to worker on fact that she's needy, without her sister tonight, and that her bottle is in her bag and that she'll be fussy and sleepy after she eats it.
It's 7:00 and I MADE IT! Baby in tow! I think I'm in the clear, as rehearsal starts, but then it happens. My pager goes off. It's needy twin. They're calling me for her. In my mind, I know she's screaming. But this child screams when I leave the room, so she's just that kid. The one that you dread because she is going to cry after her mom for hours. Aiden was the same way and JUST grew out of it. So I leave the choir room and go down the hall. Now up to this point, it has been hectic afternoon and night, but I've persevered. I've gotten through this battle and made it to church, Praise God! But then things took a turn. I'm greeted, and I use that term lightly, by a granny with serious attitude. I automatically guard myself because I recognize him at once! It's the Devil in Knee Highs. Here's how it went:
The Devil in Knee Highs says, "Are you Carsen's mom?"
"Yes, I am," I replied with confidence
"What's wrong with her?" the Devil said
"Um, what do you mean?"
"Well, she's in there crying her eyes out! You need to tell the worker when you drop her off if she has special needs!"
"Special needs?" I ask.
"Special needs." She growled and her eyes glowed. I swear she did. Ok, maybe not.
"Well, she's rotten, does that count?" I laughed a little.
"She's what?"
"She's rotten. Spoiled. Needy. (I see I'm getting no where with light humor. The Devil in Knee Highs obviously has no sense of humor.)Um, there's a bottle in her bag."
"Well, you need to tell them that! They don't know if you don't tell them." She literally puffed smoke from her nose and stomped her foot when she said this!
Now, I've had enough. I am done with the Devil in Knee Highs.
"I DID tell them that." I stare down the Devil, "Now, where is my baby?"
She pointed me to the door. Special needs?? What??
I walked in and there was my needy little angel screaming her lungs out. They had just given her a bottle and were trying to rock her to sleep. Needless to say, she wasn't having it. Another great conversation:
"Is she ok?" the worker asked me.
"Oh, she's ok if she's been fed," I said, "she's just rotten."
"She's what?" Both workers look at me like I've grown a tail and I'm about to cry at this point. No one gets me and I'm beginning to think they all think I'm saying my child is rotting.
"Give her here" I grab Needy and she automatically stops crying.
"Ohhhhhh." Obvious point taken by workers.
We played on the floor for a minute and I immediately really liked both ladies. The apologized that the Devil in Knee Highs got me out of choir and said she's just real anal about everything being 'just so.' Well, good for her wanting things 'just so', but she was definitely a tool of Lucifer last night because I almost picked up Needy, got her bag and hit the road. If it weren't for Daddy depending on me to show back up in choir, I'd probably have just left, espcially knowing I had two more at home to bathe and get to bed. That's when it hit me! Daddy was depending on me, but he wasn't the only Daddy depending on me. My heavenly Daddy was depending on me, too! What a rush to think that Jesus was watching me from Heaven, cheering me on as I made the conscious decision to go back to the choir room. He was blessed by my obediance. And bless those childcare workers, (Yes, even the Devil in Knee Highs) for what they do because if not for them, I wouldn'd be able to be a part of the choir at all. I wouldn't be able to worship. So, the moral of my story is, don't let the Devil in any form (Knee Highs or whatever) keep you from doing your duty and being a blessing for your Heavenly Daddy.
Father God, I pray that this message makes some sense to some mommy out there who is struggling with her own Devil in whatever form he choses to appear. I pray that they would remember that you are blessed by our obediance and that when we are not obedient, Satan wins. Help us to know that when we do lose a battle, that we are still winners because by knowing You, Lord, we know we've already won the war. In Jesus Name, Amen.
Wednesday, February 7, 2007
Could It Be Today?
Tuesday, February 6, 2007
Aiden's Jeep Adventure
Aiden's Jeep Adventure
Aiden O'Dell loved his Jeep. He rode in it all the time. His Jeep was his favorite thing in the world. When Aiden got in his Jeep, he could be anybody he wanted…even a lion hunter!
The sun was shining bright in the sky and the wind was blowing cool. It was the perfect day for a Jeep ride!
Aiden called to his mommy and daddy to let them know he wanted to ride in his Jeep. Daddy came out and got Aiden's Jeep from the garage so that he could ride.
Aiden jumped into the driver's seat and took off. "Don't forget to stay in our yard," reminded Daddy as Aiden drove off, "It's safe there. If you go outside the yard you might get lost."
Aiden waved bye to his daddy and headed around the house and through the trees to the back yard. Aiden began hunting for lions. "Rrrrrrrr!" 'I don't see a lion, thought Aiden, but I do see a tiger! Better go faster or it will catch me!'
Aiden sped up his Jeep and went faster. Over the bridge and through the ditch, Aiden zoomed in his Jeep. "I can race in my Jeep!" thought Aiden. He pretended that he was riding in the grand prix, next to a red corvette. And the winner is…Aiden O'Dell in his big blue Jeep. Fastest Jeep anyone here has ever seen, folks. YAY, Aiden!
Aiden came to the end of the ditch where his yard ended. Aiden peered into the woods behind his house. He just knew he would find a lion in those woods. 'I will catch that ole lion and bring him home to Daddy,' Aiden thought. But then Aiden remembered what Daddy told him before he left, "Don't forget to stay in our yard. It's safe there. If you go outside the yard, you might get lost." But Aiden was very curious and wanted to see if he could find a lion so he pushed down on the pedal and zoomed through the woods. Aiden soon realized that the woods were scary and he was having a hard time getting his Jeep through the maze of trees. Aiden was afraid. He thought that something was going to jump out at him from the trees. Aiden decided to turn around and go back, but the trees were too close together to make a turn.
When Aiden finally found his way out of the trees, he didn't see anything that looked like his yard or his house. He wished that he had not wanted to find a lion in the woods. He bet that he could have probably found that lion in his yard if he had just looked hard enough. Aiden wished that Daddy was there. He'd know how to get home. Aiden dropped his head and let one fat tear roll down his cheek. 'Please God,' Aiden thought, 'Send my Daddy to save me. I'm sorry I didn't mind my Daddy and stay in the yard. I'll never do it again."
Just then, Aiden heard a loud rumble. He could recognize that noise anywhere! Aiden became excited! It was Daddy in his Jeep! Sure enough, Aiden saw Daddy and his big blue Jeep coming through the woods, crushing over the trees that had blocked the path back to his yard. Aiden was so thankful.
Aiden thought Daddy would be very angry with him, but he did not look angry. Daddy scooped Aiden up into his big arms and gave him a hug. "Daddy, Daddy…I'm so sorry that I went out of the yard. Please don't be mad at me. I'll never do it again!" Daddy turned Aiden around in his arms so that he could see him, "Son, I am very disappointed that you left the yard, but I am mostly glad that you are safe. And I'm glad that you learned the lesson of always listening to instructions. You were almost lost in the woods, but I found you and now you're safe again. Aiden, there will be times when you do wrong, but Daddy will always be here for you to help you learn your lesson and show you the safe way back home. I love you very much." Aiden hugged his Daddy tightly and thanked God that he had a great Daddy with a big Jeep to find him and protect him. Daddy put Aiden and Aiden's Jeep into the big Jeep and they all rode home together, back to their safe yard.
The END
Monday, February 5, 2007
High Intensity Pigment
Yesterday, I went to church for the first time in at least three months. I don't think I've been more than one time since we moved back from the coast in October. I've had excuse after excuse, some very valid and some not so much, as to why I couldn't go. And ALL of these excuses had to do with my children. "Aiden has a cough, The girls are too little, The nursery doesn't fix the bottle right, Carsen cries when I leave, AIDEN cries when I leave..." The list goes on and on. So yesterday, I decided to get up and go to church because it was the Minister of Music's last Sunday and I wanted to see his work one last time. He is uber-talented and the choir in phenomenol and always a blessing. I also went to support my Daddy, a devoted choir member who is devestated (not his words because he's a man's man, but I know he is devestated), by the loss of the such a talented guy. So, that said, I got all dolled up for church-and because I've lost five pounds and my clothes are getting loose and one of my chins has gone away-I felt pretty good about myself. I put on my makeup extra-nice, and I used my new mascara, which is a color that I call SCARY BLACK. It's part of L'oreal's HIP (High Intensity Pigment) line, which is made especially for those with ethnic skin tones. Those of you who know me know that I am the whitest white girl ever...literally. I'm one step from Albino now that I've given up tanning. So naturally, I got the HIP mascara. I wanted my lashes to POP. Ha. Well, they did and I was impressed. So off I went to church, with Aiden and my HIP eyelashes in tow. (Anthony kept the girls at home because he didn't bring church pants this weekend. He wasn't planning on going since we never go lately. How sad is that?) Mom and I dropped Aiden off at Sunday School. He was geared up for it because we told him they would sing and learn about Jesus (He LOVES "Jejus"). Well, in true Aiden fashion, he teared up when we got there and he didn't know anyone. I looked at the teacher and said, "He'll be fine! But I did promise him that he'd be singing this morning so if you could throw in a 'Jesus Loves Me' even if it was unplanned, that'd be great!" He nodded and took my crying baby from me and we rushed off to church, which had already started. The first few minutes in church after leaving a crying child are pointless. You wonder if you should have just brought them with you or if they are still possibly crying, but after a few minutes, it usually wears off. Plus, they'd have paged me if he kept it up, right? So anyway, I finally settled down and began to worship. That's when it happened! Something came over me like I haven't felt in SO long. It was the spirit of the Lord speaking to me louder and clearer than I've ever heard. All of the sudden I knew why my life had been so chaotic and crazy (aside from my three children under two and my husband who I only see two days a week). It was because I was trying to handle it all without God. This has been my problem all of my life as a child of the King. I have SUCH a hard time giving up the reins and letting God lead me. I went through this right before I found out I got my job in Jackson. I had an epiphany then, too, and ended my stuborn streak by finaly telling God that I'd be fine if I had to stay where I was, and giving up the bitterness that was consuming my life and my joy. I remember telling God that I was sorry that I'd been trying to fit everything into my time instead of His. It was so humbling and SO not long ago. God blessed me then by showing me that he wanted me to have the desire of my heart (He loves me THAT much!!) and the very next day I got a call saying I had gotten the job in Jackson. How did I forget that lesson so soon? Well, God reminded me yesterday, in a split second, I tell you, that all I need to do to make things right is to just show up, come to Him and be willing. I could have shown up and not come to Him, or I could have shown up, come to Him and not have been willing, but I did all three...and I was SO blessed. I have decided that I will be an active participant in Crossgates Baptist Church, which is where my family attends. I want my children to know and to love Jesus. Aiden and I pray every night, which is so sweet and such a special time, but God told me yesterday that I can't do it on my own. I need Godly leaders to reinforce that lessons that I teach my children at home. It may not be Biblically based, but when I hear the old adage that it takes a village to raise a child, I automatically think of the many Godly men and women that were put in my path as a child who taught me about the love of Jesus. It is my desire to be a Godly mother and wife and I can't do that without the support of a church family. All of this was revealed to me yesterday. It was just amazing! And I tell you this, in true Mandye style, I blubbered. I could barely contain myself. I was moved by this being the last Sunday for the Minister of Music, I was moved by the lesson that God was teaching me and I was moved by the spirit of the people around me. It was clear that this was a loving place, and a place where I could belong and worship. I pray that when Anthony is permanantly here come April 13th, we will be able to join as a family and truly be home at Crossgates. In the mean time, I feel that God has called me to transform my blog from More than a Mommy to a blog about the trails and tribulations, the blessings and joy, of raising my three children in the way of the Lord. The name may change, because I really don't know yet what I want to call it. I want everyone to know that I need your prayer. This world is not friendly anymore, especially not for children. I need prayer to keep my children safe, keep them healthy and to help them grow in the Lord. I am already teaching Aiden how to pray, and I am so blessed by his simple prayers. Oh if we all would just humble ourselves like children when we prayed. It is so genuine and pure. And God places people on his heart already, at two years old. Sometimes he prays for family or his friends at school and sometimes it's a surprise like the time when he prayed for Mary Kellan Sartin when she was sick. He didn't know she was sick and needed prayer, but he followed what was layed on his heart and simply said her name. God moves through children, and he has already taught me lessons through mine.
Lord, I pray that this blog will be a place of encouragement and will at times serve as a beacon when there's a mom out there who is feeling lost like I was, and needs to find Your sweet light again. I pray that others will learn that finding You is as simple as showing up, coming to You, and being willing. I am willing, Father God. Please use me. In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.
After the service I found my sister and asked her if I had High Intensity Pigment all over my face. She laughed, hugged me (like good sisters do) and said no. Aparently the money you pay for that stuff keeps it in place. Praise God! That could have been a scary sight!!! Oh, and when I asked Aiden what he did in Sunday School, he said he sang"Jejus Woves Me!" and proceeded to sing it to me. Praise God for Godly teachers! My village is already pitching in!!! Love to all! -Mandye


